Making Room for God

John 15: 13-14
"There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends. You are my friends if you do what I command." 

​There’s something that’s been weighing heavily on my heart lately. I think God has been gently redirecting and reshaping my perspective so I can finally see this truth: Do we make room for God in everything we do—or only when it’s convenient for us?

For a long time, I’ve been caught in this mindset that I need to “find” a husband—that if I could just become a better version of myself, maybe then someone would choose me. I believed that if I worked hard enough, prayed hard enough, and acted “good enough,” I could somehow earn a husband. But that’s not how God works. A husband is not a prize we achieve after collecting enough “good person” points. A husband—like every other blessing—is a gift from God.
The truth is, I didn’t always want to be married. But when I was baptized, my entire outlook on life changed. Suddenly, I understood that my ultimate purpose on this earth is to glorify God. Everything I do—every word, every action—should point back to Him.
Looking back, I think I resisted marriage because deep down, I didn’t believe I was good enough for it. And even now, the enemy sometimes slips in and whispers that same lie—that I’m not enough and never will be. Other times, I realize that maybe I’ve kept myself so busy, or so guarded, that I haven’t left room for a relationship to grow in the first place.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve been growing a lot spiritually. Last night, I heard something on a TV show that struck me: the character said they wanted to be in a relationship, but it was their choice whether to make space for someone or not. That hit me deeply—but not just in the sense of human relationships.
Because that’s true of our relationship with God, too.
Every single day, we choose how much space we make for Him.
We choose whether we start our day with Him.
We choose whether we pray—morning, night, or in between.
We choose whether we let Him in during our moments of weakness, or whether we shut Him out and dwell in fear, temptation, or anxiety.
Our relationship with the Lord grows or fades based on the space we choose to give Him.
This morning, I was reading in John 15:14-16, where Jesus says that He calls us friends. That verse reminded me that even Abraham and Moses were called friends of God. And because Jesus came to earth, died for our sins, and rose again, we now get to share in that same friendship. But friendship requires participation—it’s on us to nurture it and make room for it and for us to realize that Jesus chooses his friends who demonstrate their friendship by obeying him.
When I think about marriage now, I think about what it looks like to make space for a spouse while still keeping Jesus at the center. Before my relationship with the Lord, I never would’ve thought like that. But now I desire a marriage where both of us are running together toward the Kingdom of God. I dream of raising children who love and serve the Lord, of breaking generational patterns, of building a home where Christ is not just mentioned but present.
That desire is still there, and yes—it’s a daily battle. The enemy loves to attack where we’re vulnerable. But I believe that God hears the desires of my heart. I believe that in His perfect timing, it will happen. And I believe that just as we choose to make space for a person, we also choose daily whether we make space for God.
Because Jesus loves us.
God so loved the world that He sent His only Son, who died so that we could be washed white as snow and forgiven for our sins. Through His resurrection, the Holy Spirit now dwells within us—if we choose Him as our Lord and Savior.
So, I’ll ask you this:
Are you choosing God today?
Are you choosing a relationship with Him—a friendship?
And in that friendship, are you walking in obedience to what He’s called you to do?
Recently, I truly believed that God had revealed who my future husband was. And I got so caught up in that idea that my focus began to shift—from God Himself to what I thought He was doing. I started idolizing the promise instead of the Promise Keeper.
Then one evening, I went to church. Honestly, I almost didn’t go. But two different people encouraged me to, so I did. And that night, I saw the person I believed was my future husband…walk in with his girlfriend.
My heart sank.
I felt guilt, shame, and this deep sense that I had somehow disappointed God. I went home and cried because I realized that my focus had drifted. I had made this relationship—this idea—an idol.
But even in that, God was merciful.
I realized that my prayers for that person weren’t wasted. Maybe I was meant to intercede for him, even if he wasn’t meant for me. Maybe God was showing me that prayer changes people—even when it’s not about getting what we want.
Still, I had to face the truth: I had put my hope in the wrong thing. I had trusted my own understanding instead of waiting on God’s timing. And yes, I felt foolish—but I’m learning that obedience sometimes looks like sitting in the uncomfortable, trusting that God knows what He’s doing.
Because at the end of the day, I don’t choose marriage. I don’t choose children. I don’t choose my future.
I choose God.
And every single day, I have to choose to make room for Him—again and again.
So, if you’re reading this today, I pray that you make room for God in your life. That you open your heart fully to Him. That you walk with Him, trust Him, and allow Him to reveal your purpose in His perfect timing.
If you haven’t yet, I pray you turn your life over to Jesus. Ask Him for forgiveness. Invite Him in. Say, “Jesus, I accept You as my Lord and Savior.”
And if you ever find yourself longing for friendship, remember this—Jesus is already choosing you. All you have to do is say yes. And when you do, I promise: you will never be alone.
Until next